Short Story ◎ Psychology

When Lies Become Kindness

Considering the ethics and psychology of lies, and the balance between truth and kindness.

  • #lies
  • #ethics
  • #kindness
  • #truth

"Are lies always bad?"

At Sora's question, the club room fell silent.

Hiyori set down her tea and thought. "That's a difficult question."

Kaito reacted. "Lies are definitely bad."

Leo tilted his head. "Is that really true?"

Sora gave a concrete example. "When a friend's hairstyle doesn't suit them, would you say so honestly?"

Kaito fell silent.

"That's," Hiyori said quietly, "the boundary between lies and kindness."

"Boundary?"

"Telling the truth versus not hurting the other person. Sometimes they're difficult to reconcile."

Leo thought logically. "Kant said lies are always evil."

"But," Sora countered, "aren't there lies to protect someone?"

Hiyori wrote in her notebook. "In psychology, there are several types of lies."

"Types?" Kaito asked.

"Self-serving lies, social lies, prosocial lies."

"Prosocial lies?"

"Lies told thinking of the other person. Also called white lies."

Sora gave an example. "Like telling someone seriously ill 'you'll be fine.'"

"Is that kindness? Or a lie?" Kaito was confused.

Hiyori explained, "It's both. And therein lies the ethical dilemma."

Leo questioned, "The other person has the right to know the truth. But truth causes suffering."

"Yes. Which to prioritize," Hiyori nodded.

Kaito shared his experience. "Once I honestly pointed out a friend's flaws, and the relationship broke."

"That must have been painful," Hiyori empathized.

"Being honest isn't always right," Kaito learned.

Sora asked, "So how should we judge?"

Hiyori answered, "There are several criteria. First, motive."

"Motive?"

"Why lie? For yourself? For the other person?"

Leo added, "If it's selfish motive, that's problematic."

"Yes. But if it's to protect the other person, it might be ethically acceptable in some cases."

Kaito asked, "So if it's for them, lies are OK?"

"It's not that simple," Hiyori corrected. "You need to consider consequences too."

"Consequences?"

"How that lie will affect them long-term."

Sora understood. "It might be kind short-term but harmful long-term."

"Exactly," Hiyori nodded. "For example, saying 'you're good' when they lack ability prevents growth."

Leo added another perspective. "Information asymmetry is also problematic."

"Information asymmetry?"

"One side knows the truth, the other doesn't. This creates power imbalance."

Hiyori added, "It can also deprive the other of freedom of choice."

Kaito thought deeply. "This is difficult."

Sora asked, "What are social lies?"

"Flattery and facade," Hiyori explained. "Small lies to maintain social harmony."

"Like 'good work today'?" Kaito asked.

"Yes. You're not really concerned about their fatigue, but use it as a greeting."

Leo understood. "Social lubricant."

"Exactly. These lies are culturally accepted."

Sora gave another example. "What about lies for a surprise party?"

Hiyori smiled. "Interesting example."

"Temporarily deceive but ultimately to make them happy."

"A type of prosocial lie," Hiyori explained. "Benefits outweigh harm."

Kaito asked, "So how do we decide whether to lie?"

Hiyori answered, "Ask several questions."

"What kind?"

"Whose lie is this? Am I depriving them of the right to know? What are the long-term effects?"

Leo added, "And is there another way?"

"Another way?"

"A way to tell the truth while maintaining kindness," Hiyori explained.

Sora showed interest. "For example?"

"'I don't think that hairstyle suits you. But let's find one that does together.'"

Kaito understood. "Honest but also providing support."

"Yes. Balancing truth and kindness."

Leo asked, "But sometimes truth is too cruel."

"Yes," Hiyori acknowledged. "Then silence is an option."

"Silence?"

"Not lying, but not saying everything."

Sora wrote in her notebook. "Between lies and truth, there's silence."

"Yes. Though this also relates to the right to know."

Kaito reflected on his experience. "When I was too honest and hurt someone, maybe I lacked kindness."

"Sharp realization," Hiyori acknowledged. "How you tell the truth matters."

"How to tell?"

"Timing, word choice, attitude. Everything affects it."

Leo said, "Even if it's truth, delivering it aggressively becomes violence."

"Exactly," Hiyori nodded.

Sora asked, "So there are times when lies become kindness?"

"There are," Hiyori answered. "But it should be judged carefully."

"Criteria?"

"To protect them. Minimal harm. No other way."

Kaito added, "And not for your own benefit."

"Yes. Self-serving lies and altruistic lies are different."

Leo asked the final question. "But why do we feel guilty about lying?"

"A natural response," Hiyori answered. "Lies should basically be avoided. But sometimes they become a necessary evil."

Sora thought deeply. "There's no perfect answer."

"There isn't," Hiyori acknowledged. "That's why we need to think each time."

The four sat quietly in the club room. Lies and truth, kindness and honesty. The boundary is ambiguous and changes with situation.

"Basically avoid lies," Kaito concluded. "But sometimes necessary for kindness."

"Balance and judgment," Leo continued.

Sora closed her notebook. "And always a caring heart."

Hiyori smiled. "That's the core of ethics."

"When lies become kindness," Sora murmured. "That's when you truly think of the other person."

"But," Hiyori added, "you also need courage to tell the truth."

The four nodded to each other. There's no easy answer. That's why they keep thinking. Without hurting others, but not running from truth. Carefully walking that narrow path.

Kaito said, "I'll keep hesitating."

"Hesitating is important," Hiyori said. "Not lying easily, but not becoming violent with truth either."

Leo nodded. "Ethics is an eternal question."

Sora smiled. "Let's keep thinking together."

A quiet understanding flowed through the club room. Between lies and truth, continuing to search for kindness. That might be living humanely.